哈佛研究：健康自恋的人更容易走上人生巅峰！-英语口语我的天师女友


自恋是对自己自信自满的一种陶醉入恋的心理表现。你觉得自己自恋吗？赶紧来测测你的自恋程度吧！


答案
【测试纯属娱乐，准不准看个人】
选择A：自恋指数 25%
你自恋程度极低，相反的馨子的老公，你是自卑型。你对自己外表没信心，觉得自己长得普通，这让你特别喜欢打扮，想修饰自己的缺点，你打从心底希望别人能注意自己。
选择B：自恋指数 30%
你自恋程度普通，自知外表不算十分突出。但你属于可爱型，个性乐观开朗，不会做作假装，亲和力十足，总有很多人爱跟你聊天杨壹琳 。就算不是大帅哥大美女霞光道5号，仍然朋友众多。
选择C：自恋指数 60%
你对自己的外表满有信心的，却不至于太过自恋，因为你自知天外有天，自己只能算是“中上货色”林采薇 。而且你有点孤芳自赏，认为自己的优点，旁人未必懂得欣赏吴静敏 星罗棋布造句 。
选择D：自恋指数 99%
你的自恋程度高的破表，每天大约九成时间在照镜子，在路上看到一摊水，你也忍不住望几眼。爱自己爱得狂热的你，根本不会去爱别人，相信你的终身伴侣，应该是一块能够与你朝夕相伴的镜子。

不知道你对测试结果满意吗？其实对于自恋，哈佛有专门的研究。
研究发现，适度自恋有利于个人发展，让你更容易走上人生巅峰。

1
Narcissistic people can sometimes be psychologically healthier than other people.
自恋者有时心理更健康
Five studies, published in 2004 in the journalPersonality Processes and Individual Differences, looked at some benefits of narcissism. Hundreds of people participated.
2004年孔庆祥 ，《性格养成与个性差异》刊登了五项有关自恋益处的研究，有数百人参与其中杰里斯隆 。
Results showed that narcissists tended to be less depressed, lonely, anxious, and neurotic, and reported greater well-being than people who scored low on narcissism.
结果显示，自恋者往往更不容易抑郁、孤单、焦虑、神经质，他们的幸福感比不自恋的人更强烈。
研究作者写道：
"High narcissists may be socially callous, but that is no reason for them not to be psychologically healthy. To use a far-fetched metaphor, the mind of a narcissist is like a sports utility vehicle.
It is great to be in the driving seat, but fellow motorists must watch out, lest a collision with this mobile fortress demolish their more humble hatchbacks."
“高度自恋的人可能冷酷无情，但是他们不会心理不健康。打个牵强的比喻，自恋者的心理就像是一辆运动型多用途汽车（SUV），坐在驾驶座上的感觉很好。
但其他司机必须要小心避免和这座移动堡垒发生碰撞，毁掉自己更加低调的小轿车。

2
Being moderately narcissistic seems to protect against social anxiety
适度自恋似乎能缓解社交焦虑
A 2010 study published in thejournalPersonality and Individual Differences宿松房产网 ,found that female college students who scored moderately high on a measure of narcissism were less worried about the way their bodies looked during exercise.
2010年刊登在《性格与个体差异》上的一项研究发现：在锻炼时，稍微自恋一点的女大学生更不担心自己的身材看起来如何。
3
Narcissistic adolescents and young adults tend to be more satisfied with life than their peers.
相较于同龄人，自恋的青少年和年轻人对生活更满意。
The takeaway from a 2012 study, published in thejournalSocial Psychological and Personality Science,is that narcissism is more beneficial for younger people.
《社会心理与性格科学》上一项2012年的研究发现，自恋对年轻人更有益。
For the study, 368 college students and 439 of their family members filled out surveys on narcissism, life satisfaction, and personality traits.
"Our findings suggest that the link between narcissism and life satisfaction is greater for adolescents and young adults than for adults," the authors write.
在该研究中，368名大学生和他们的439名家庭成员填写了一份关于自恋、生活满意度、性格特质的问卷。
研究作者称：“结果显示，相比于成年人，在青少年和年轻群体中，自恋和生活满意度的关系更大。”
Specifically, participants who were younger than 26 who displayed certain types of narcissism reported higher life satisfaction and well-being; mothers of students who displayed the same traits did not.
特别是在26岁以下的受访者中，自恋者的生活满意度和幸福感都更高；但有自恋特征的学生妈妈中，并没有出现这个现象。
That said, the study also found narcissists of all ages were generally perceived more negatively by others.
然而，研究也发现，赵c 无论处于哪个年龄段，自恋者得到的他人反馈都更负面。

4
Narcissists tend to make great first impressions.
自恋者容易给人留下良好的第一印象
But those positive impressions deteriorate quickly.
但这种好印象很快就会褪去。
Two studies published 1998林育信 , in theJournal ofPersonality and Social Psychology, found thatnarcissistic college students were at first perceived as agreeable and well-adjusted by their peers.
1998年《个性与社会心理学期刊》刊登的两项研究发现，自恋的大学生给同龄人留下的第一印象是和蔼可亲、适应性强。
Interestingly, after a few weeks, those perceptions become more negative:
Narcissists were perceived as less agreeable and well-adjusted, and more hostile and arrogant, than other students.
但有趣的是，几周过后，这种好印象就变差了：相比于其他人，
自恋者给人留下的印象变得更不好相处，适应性更差，更不友善、傲慢。

5
Being slightly narcissistic is linked to having strong relationships.
轻度自恋和稳固的感情关系存在联系
In "Rethinking Narcissism," Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin gives a definition of healthy narcissism: being able to move "seamlessly between self-absorption and caring attentiveness."
哈佛大学医学院心理学专家克雷格·马尔金在《反思自恋》一书中给“健康自恋”下了定义：能够在“专注自我和关怀体贴之间无缝切换”。
Malkin and a colleague developed the Narcissistic Spectrum Scale, on which two key indicators of healthy narcissism are responding "no" to the statements流鬼国 ,
"I like to dream big, but not at the expense of my relationships" and "I can rein myself in when people tell me I'm getting a big head."
他和一名同事研发了“自恋指数谱”大唐2006，其中“健康自恋”的两个关键标志就是“两个不”：
“我喜欢远大的梦想，但不会以我的感情关系为代价”、“当别人说我自以为是时，我可以控制自己”。
If you do score high on healthy narcissism, Malkin writes,you're likely to have an easy time giving and receiving emotional support, and to enjoy closeness and emotional intimacy.
马尔金写道，如果你的“健康自恋”得分很高，那么你可能很容易给予或获得情感支持，并且享受亲密关系。

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